![]() Meaning they been saving $20,000 dlls so far. My in laws have been renting them their income property for 5 yrs and charging them $500 less a month of what the values of the property home is. I found this chat room because this week I confronted my sister In law. You can find Gabe on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, LinkedIn, and his website. I value these skills and I often chuckle at the idea that people think it comes naturally for me, when in reality it was anything but easy. But through therapy, medication, and practice, I have learned to be more assertive. ![]() This, however, will not make me happy.Īnxiety disorders make it more difficult to be involved in conflict. I would much rather give everyone what they want, never say no, and always give in. To this day, I have to take a deep breath before a confrontation starts and often will have an anxiety attack when I “come down” from the situation.īeing able to stand up for what I believe in is important and being able to set boundaries with others is equally important. ![]() Confrontation was a skill I had to learn. I had to learn how to stand up for myself and for others. My Anxiety Disorder Doesn't Teach Confrontation Skills My fear of this is so great that I sometimes have a panic or anxiety attack if someone doesn't answer the phone when I call. The thought of having a panic attack over a confrontation was too great a risk, so I seldom fought back. Any ground lost by me was gained by them. Aggressive coworkers, manipulative customers, and angry competitors all poured into my office looking to take advantage where they could. When I reached adulthood, I discovered that the schoolyard bully existed as a workplace bully and in many other forms. ![]() I would sit there and provide no resistance whatsoever. My classmates would taunt me and I wouldn't say a word in my defense. I was scared, timid, and just wanted the confrontation to stop. In school, I was bullied for many reasons, but I never fought back. In fact, I used to avoid confrontation by any means necessary. I may have become good at confrontation, if that is a measurable skill, but I do not enjoy it. What people should know about people with anxiety disorders is that confrontation, debate, and disagreement are some of the most difficult life skills I've had to learn. What to Know About Anxiety Disorders and Confrontation We are often seen as self-absorbed and unable to comprehend another person’s feelings. The stereotype of the mentally ill being mere steps away from violence contributes to this, but people also seem to think that aggressive behavior in any form is just comes naturally for the mentally ill. What leads them to this conclusion is what people don’t know about anxiety disorders. They see them as the verbal equivalent of fighting and, certainly, as the escalating step before physical violence. Society, as a whole, sees disagreement and confrontation as aggressive. I have found that people think being confrontational is easier for me than other people because I have mental illness ( What Is Stigma?). What You Don’t Know about Anxiety Disorders and Confrontation But anxiety disorder and confrontation don’t exactly go hand in and hand. Confrontation and disagreement, as an example, turn into signs that I am escalating to a manic state state or having an anxiety or panic attack. When people know my diagnosis of bipolar and anxiety disorders - and given my line of work, most do - they tend to assign all of my actions to said diagnosis. ![]()
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